Have you ever had to wait for your friend to make a decision about going somewhere or doing something together? ALL. THE. TIME.

So many times, I’ve asked my friends to go out or do something, and the answer I got was always “unsure.” I think people are afraid something better might come along, or they’re waiting for someone else to decide. Then everyone ends up waiting on each other, and the cycle just keeps going. My high school friends and I have been “planning” a trip for years, but it never happened because no one made a decision. It was always “I can’t get a day off” or “I might not be free.” GEEZ. There is nothing wrong with saying “no.”

When I was younger, I relied too much on what my friends wanted to do. Because of that, I missed out on things I would have enjoyed. Even now, I still don’t understand why it’s so hard for people to make a decision. There’s no need to be “kreng jai” if you don’t want to do what your friend asks.

For me, “yes” or “no” are the only answers I want to hear. If my friend says “maybe” or “I’m not sure,” I take it as a no, because I’m not going to waste my time waiting. I would rather go do the thing I want than sit around, only to have them say “no” later. What the heck!

This has happened to me way too many times, so now I’ve stopped asking people to do things with me. I go to the movies alone, and I’ve taken so many “Me, Myself & I” trips. Some people freak out when I tell them I went to see a movie by myself. But honestly, there’s nothing wrong with that. If I keep waiting for people, I’ll never get to do the things I want or enjoy them.

Seriously, people… start making decisions. There will always be right and wrong choices, but at least you’ll learn from them. If you made the right one, you might discover new hobbies. If it’s the wrong one, then you’ll know what you don’t like. Either way, it’s better than wasting time.