As much as people think I look like an innocent girl, that doesn’t mean I actually am. Last time I wrote about where I got my dating tips from. This time, I’m writing about dating sites in Thailand, since I’ve been on and off them for almost a decade.

The first site I ever joined was thailandfriends.com when I was 18. (Yup, legal and ready to get crazy!) I’ve always been attracted to white men (I’ll write a blog about why later), and since I don’t drink or go out at night, I thought dating sites would be a good way to meet them. I ended up meeting several men from the site, and after two years of being a member, I even joined their events. I kept going to those events for a few years until the owner sold the site. Along the way, I met the owner and made some friends I still keep in touch with today.

After around six years of dating-site chatting and meeting men, I got busy with a new job that required me to travel every month. I had no time to keep in touch with anyone, so I stopped. Three years later, after I quit my tour leader job, I got back on dating sites, but things had changed. Men seemed more boring, and most of them were just looking for sex. Maybe I didn’t mind when I was younger and in my fun phase, but now I find it boring when guys jump straight into dirty talk instead of having a real conversation. I have nothing against dirty talk, but I’d rather do it with my boyfriend or husband, not random men I’ve never even met.

As I mentioned in my blog about men on Tinder, I tried a similar experiment on a dating site. I uploaded a bikini photo, and guess what? My profile suddenly got 10 times more attention than when I used a normal picture. YAY! LOL. On another site, though, the majority of men checking my profile were much older—90 percent of them were as old as my dad, or even older. Sorry, but I’m not looking for a father!

My friends say I’m too picky. Maybe I am, but I’d rather be picky than settle for someone who doesn’t meet my standards and end up hurt. Honestly, I don’t think my standards are that high. Still, I’ve been told many times that a) I’m too good to be true, or b) I intimidate men. Well, good and single women still exist, don’t they?

I’m also a member of a Facebook group for Thai women who are attracted to white men. We share stories and chit chat. I saw one girl say she gets a hundred messages a day, and I couldn’t help but wonder what kind of photo she’s using (no offense). Many men complain about Thai women using fake photos, lying, or not being able to communicate in English. But when they find an honest, decent woman using real photos, they often ignore her. Unless, of course, there’s cleavage or half-naked pictures involved. Maybe they just don’t like my look.

And by the way, some men never leave dating sites. I’ve seen the same guys on them for years. Are they really unable to find a match, or are they just hooking up with random women? Do some of them think that just because they’re foreign, Thai women will beg for their attention? Or worse, that being a “handsome farang” means they can get any girl they want? Honestly, I can’t stand those types of men. And if your username has “cute” (narak) or “handsome” (lor) in it, who exactly gave you that permission? Because from what I saw in the photos, you’re neither! LOLOLOL.

Okay, I’m not just here to complain about annoying farang men. Some Thai women are just as bad. Some fall in love way too quickly, end up sleeping with the guy too soon, or straight up lie. Wake up, women! Sleeping with a man doesn’t make him yours. If there’s no real connection and he isn’t committed to you, then don’t sleep with him. Yes, heartbreak can happen anytime if it’s fate, but at least learn to respect yourself.

Anyway, this is getting way too long. The point is, dating sites don’t really work for me anymore. These days, I stay on them mostly to spy, see what’s going on, or maybe even catch someone cheating. Who knows? And hey, looking at good-looking men’s photos doesn’t hurt anyone, right? HE HE HE.

Until next time…