A girl once told me she met a nice guy on Tinder and they ended up in a serious relationship. OK, I was curious! So I joined Tinder in April. I stayed on the app for a few months and even ran a little experiment for a week.

For anyone who doesn’t know: swipe right means you like the person, swipe left means you don’t. So there I was, right… left… right… left… and quickly realized this app can feel pretty shallow. Some people just don’t look good in photos, while others edit their pictures to look way better than they do in real life.

Let’s start with my real account. Here’s what happened: I actually got quite a lot of matches, BUT barely any men talked to me. They were so quiet. Most of my matches didn’t even live in Bangkok. They were tourists or had been here before, and the app still showed them in my area. Since nobody started the conversation, I did. Only a few replied, and those who did kept it short or boring. While swiping, I noticed men seem to use the same types of photos over and over: drinking, partying, skydiving, diving, half-naked on the beach, or posing with a big group of friends (which left me guessing which one was actually him).

NOW, let’s get to my experiment.
After realizing most guys weren’t talking to me, I decided to create a fake account. I know, I know—it’s not the best thing to do. But I was curious to see if anyone would actually talk. For this account, I used a bikini photo that only showed cleavage (no face). I didn’t swipe right on everyone, but still, I got way more matches than on my real account. And guess what? Men who ignored me on my real account suddenly wanted to chat with my fake one. Go figure. Some even admitted they swipe right on every woman just to see who swipes back.

From this little “social experiment,” I discovered a few types of men:

1. Married men who claimed they were just looking for “friends” to chat with or meet sometimes. Honestly? If you live here, work here, and have a wife, shouldn’t you already have a social life? If I had a husband, I wouldn’t go online searching for men to talk to.

2. Men in relationships who wanted women to sleep with, claiming their girlfriends were “okay” with it. Yeah, right. I felt bad for their girlfriends.

3. Men looking for a serious relationship. And sure, I can’t blame them if they also hoped for something casual, considering the photo I used.

4. Random horny men. These could be tourists, businessmen, or locals—it didn’t matter, their vibe was the same.

I used my fake account for only a few days before deleting it. I didn’t keep in touch with anyone because most of them turned out to be either annoying or just plain disgusting. Hahaha.

After that, I stopped using Tinder for a while. I got bored and didn’t really see the point. Eventually, I would open it when I was bored, mostly to look at cute men. But the truth is, women really can’t expect anything serious from Tinder or any dating app. Good men and bad men exist everywhere—it’s up to fate when (or if) you’ll meet someone decent.

And if you’re a woman reading this, please remember: don’t assume the guy you’re talking to is “the one” until he proves he is. Don’t give him what he wants too easily—make him earn it. Be a high-value woman.

Swipe… RIGHT! 😉