People often ask me how and why I can do things by myself most of the time. They wonder if I’m truly happy or secretly lonely.

The answer is simple. I’m happy.

Of course, there are moments when I feel lonely. I’m human. But I understand my situation, and I accept it. I’m building the life I believe I deserve. A life where I get to be happy and do the things I love. I don’t see why we always need to depend on someone else to live a fulfilling life. That doesn’t mean I don’t want a boyfriend or husband one day. It just means I’m not waiting for one to start living.

Since primary school, my house was in a different direction from most of my friends. I got used to walking to school and going home alone. It was the same in high school, university, and even when I started attending church. Over time, I developed this quiet habit of enjoying my own company. Taking the bus alone, looking out the window, listening to music, and letting my thoughts wander.

Being alone never felt scary. It felt normal.

As I mentioned in my post about decisions, I decided a long time ago not to wait for people. If I want to see a movie, I go. If I want to attend a concert, I go and sing, dance, and scream my heart out. If I want to travel somewhere and I have the time and money, I book the trip.

I refuse to let other people’s hesitation stop me from experiencing life.

On social media, I tend to post a lot on my personal Facebook account. It’s not because I want attention. It’s simply easier. Not everyone is interested in the same things. I have a friend who loves K-pop. When she talks about it, I don’t always know how to react because it’s not my thing. But I respect her excitement.

So when I’m excited about something, I post it. If someone is interested, they can engage. If not, they can scroll past. It keeps things simple and pressure-free.

Over the years, I’ve learned how to love myself. I want to improve my skills. I want to visit new places and explore the world. I enjoy discovering what I like and what I don’t like. That self-discovery matters to me.

At the end of the day, I am responsible for my own happiness. This is my life. I’m not going to let someone else control how I live it.